Monday, November 7, 2011

The Toothbrushes

Hundreds of thousands of us living in Connecticut this past week can commiserate with one another about how difficult several days on end without electricity can be.  Sleeping in a home with inside temperatures below 50 degrees and lugging water for flushing is not for the faint of heart!

I
experienced just such a week myself. Although we did not initially lose power as a result of "Storm Alfred" which brought an extremely heavy October snow, we lost our power after the fact, presumably as a result of a transformer blowing out perhaps as someone else celebrated the return of electricity; their gain, my loss. Those elusive little currents just avoided my street like the plague for the next five days.



Night five had me at my breaking point for sleeping in a frigid bedroom in sweat shirts and pants, heavy socks, and ten pounds of blankets, and I simply refused to put up with the uncivilized conditions for a fifth night.  And let's not even think about the smoke detectors that one by one starting chirping when the batteries decided that they too had had enough.  Ah, but at 7:30 p.m. Sunday as I was out for the evening came the text message from my sister, who lives five doors down the street, that I'd long awaited: our power had come back on.  A massive lottery win wouldn't have made me happier! But on the ride back home, my sister called, and I could tell by her tone that she was about to deflate my soaring mood.  It seems that most of the homes on our street had power restored...but not mine.


At my sister's urging, and it did not take much convincing, believe me, my husband and I decided to spend the night at her home.  She still has a beautiful wing of her home, once my mother's, more recently my son's, where my son Justin and his new wife Tory still spend weekends when they return from their home in another state.


Aside from the warm comfort and satisfaction of light coming on upon throwing a switch, I embraced my temporary surroundings with a new interest I hadn't expected.  I marveled at what for the past several years had been a male-dominated environment as it now blossoms with feminine touches proving that a woman has nested here with her mate. Strewn among the race car photos, racing newspapers, and men's cologne now emerge hair clips, bracelets, and ballerinas. When I glanced at the toothbrush holder and saw the two toothbrushes next to one another and so perfectly entwined together at the bottom, it proved without a doubt that this space now belonged to a couple instead of a single male.  I experienced an unexpected contentment from the toothbrushes as they were for me proof positive of a bond between a husband and a wife.  Such a simple little everyday detail, but evidencing a profound intimacy that exists in their relationship.  My "little boy" is where I have always hoped he would eventually arrive, in a marriage bond with the woman he loves, and she equally loving him back.


To be there for one another in every way, shape, and form, through whatever life tosses their way, electricity or no electricity, to entwine his toothbrush with hers, that is what I pray for this amazing couple every blessed day of their lives.

Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Holding Pattern

Have you ever been on an airplane when weather or air traffic prevented you from landing and the pilot had to keep circling the area of the airport keeping you in a holding pattern?  It's not a good place to be.  Oh, you may be like my husband and be so thoroughly engrossed in reading a good book that you haven't even noticed that you've been flying around in circles for a half hour, but chances are that you are aware of what's going on and it's becoming somewhat annoying to you that you can't get where you need to be when you need to be there.

That has been the story of my life lately.  There are just too many things going on at once for me, and it seems that I take one step forward and two steps back.  I just can't get any traction and get my head above water.  I feel as if I've been flying around in the same circle for many weeks, and I sense that I am running out of fuel.

When the plane can't land, there is always a reason:  the fog is too thick, too much air traffic; one reason or another that it's not safe to land.  Perhaps that's my life.  Strange as it is to consider, perhaps my holding pattern is actually protecting me from what otherwise might be a crash landing.

My son has been in a holding pattern himself.  He and his new bride will be moving out of state, but he has not secured a new job yet and so here he is in his own holding pattern until he can land that new job.  Frustrating as it is for him, if he lands prematurely, chances are he'll crash into a work situation that will not make him happy, and so he needs to just bide his time and circle the area until the fog clears.

I remember when I took Justin to Providence, Rhode Island, to his new college "home".  That had all the makings for my complete breakdown, leaving my only child so far away from me for the first time, fending for himself with no mother there to fuss over him.  Well, mishap after mishap, dead battery, roadside assistance, buying a new battery, and waiting for an installation all led to his very late return to campus.  By the time I dropped him off at his dorm, all I wanted was to get on the road.  That took care of the crying all the way home since I couldn't wait to get out of there and get back to my home, sweet home.  God saw fit to slap some inconvenience in my way so that my entire focus changed.

As anxious as Justin is for a new job and to settle into his new home with his new bride, it's stressful to leave the security and safety net of nearby family and friends and of a job you've had several years and know inside and out.  As much as I want Justin to be enjoying his new life with his beautiful new wife and a perfect new job, it's hard not to have him so nearby and on hand whenever I need him.

I think I'm starting to get the picture here.  Holding patterns are in our best interests and for our own protection.  So there's nothing else for Justin and me to do but to each go grab a good book and await the word from our spiritual tower that it's time to land.

Friday, July 15, 2011

The Wedding

It’s taken me quite a while to recover from "the wedding", certainly not because it was traumatic or overly emotional for me, but because I don’t think I realized how much energy it really takes to run on all eight cylinders for so long and then to catch up when I’ve let my daily responsibilities slack off while devoted to other, more valuable, things...like family and major life events.  After the hustle bustle of such a huge undertaking, there seemed to be almost a crash for me as I tried to cope with a normal routine again.  I remember ascending Mount Etna in Sicily several years ago only to find I was enveloped in clouds of vapor unable to see the horizon or, for that matter, anything more than a few feet away.  I felt claustrophobic.  That is the feeling I experienced after all the wedding festivities had ended, shrouded in a cloud of exhaustion unable to focus.  The newlyweds fled to a honeymoon paradise, but I think the family left behind needs a vacation just as much so that it all "soaks in" and so that we can settle back down to earth.

The wedding day was beautiful in every possible respect.  The bride was gorgeous and so radiant the sun paled by comparison.  The groom cleaned up incredibly well and could have doubled for one of the old-time dashing, romantic stars of the big screen.  If you weren’t already Catholic at the wedding’s full Mass, I imagine you wished you were for you wanted to be fully a part of what was as magnificent as any royal wedding could be.  The music, the priest’s words, the love in the bride’s and groom’s eyes was the stuff of fairy tales.  And the reception was fun, and all receptions are not necessarily so, and no one left without remarking on how in love they could tell the happy couple is, how incredible the food was, and the wonderful time they’d had. I wanted it to go on forever.

With so perfect a day, it’s been difficult for me to cope with normalcy again. And what, I wondered the next day, would normalcy be like now that my son is a married man?  When Justin has been asked what married life is like, he responds that it’s "just like it was before, except now she doesn’t go home at night."  That sums it up nicely.  I don’t know if I thought my own life post-wedding would feel like the aftermath of an asteroid collision or something but it’s just like it was before except now they live in the same house and wear rings.  I’m not sure what I may have feared, but I guess it didn’t happen.  To my utter amazement and joy, life is as good as it was before!  Oh, I still have changes to adjust to; they are, after all, moving to another state, but I’ll still see them on weekends and still sit with Justin in church, and hear Tory sing, and still text, and e-mail, and then let’s not forget the occasional Rock Band nights!

Three years ago, when my stepson Jaime was married, I was privileged to choose and read a piece at his and Joyce’s wedding.  I chose what I thought was a pretty and appropriate excerpt from "Captain Corelli’s Mandolin" by Louis de Bernieres:


Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision.  You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.  Because this is what love is.  Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.  That is just being "in love" which any fool can do.  Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.  Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.


If I didn’t know it before, I know now and have the deepest conviction of the solidity of our family tree.  Three years ago I thought that that reading was strictly referring to the love of one man and one woman, but I realize it’s beyond that one simple relationship.  I know now that the roots our family tree has are completely entwined, never to be disunited.  The roots have deepened, the branches thickened, and the foliage made more spectacular.  We have added new branches, but we are indeed one tree.

Wednesday, June 1, 2011

The Story of the Cookbook

Can you believe it's June, which means it's finally wedding month?  We knew this time would fly, but this went at warp speed!

The showers are behind us, the plans are all complete, and now we're down to crunch time.  Just the little details still need to be tidied up, like the dress fittings, the shoes being dyed, the rehearsal dinner head count, and the final assembly of the cookbook.

For the past few years, once I recognized that Justin would not be a confirmed bachelor eating pizza for the rest of his life, I thought that a cookbook containing his favorite recipes would be a useful gift for him and his new bride.  As I labored over each recipe that Justin loves, I began to spend most of the time on the stories describing the history of how the recipes came to our family, whether his father's family or my own.  It was not enough for me to share the recipes with him; I felt that the reason he loves those recipes is where the real value lies.

I think the stories attached to anything in life are what make it special, whether it be a recipe, a piece of jewelry, or even a photograph.  Have you ever looked at an old family photo and even though you know the names of everyone in the photo it just hasn't impressed you all that much?  But it takes on an entirely new meaning for you when someone points out to you that this photo is of your grandfather Ed and, although he was gone before you were born, you are exactly like he was, you have his sense of humor, his integrity, his ability to solve any problem.  Now you have a connection with your grandfather that wasn't there before because you have a story about him.  You know him on a personal level.  It's the connection that you make with that person or object that makes it meaningful to you.  You can find thousands of good recipes in cookbooks and on the Internet today, but until you've got a story that makes it connected to you in some way, it'll remain just another good recipe.

The cookbook is filled with delicious recipes, but each recipe has its own story.  From the hot rolls which Justin rationed out to the rest of us so he could eat the most to the chocolate chip cookies that he wouldn't even try until well into his teens and has now requested I make as an "extra" for the wedding reception, each story is filled with anecdotes, but mostly is filled with love.

I hope that the finished product will convey the love that went into its making.  I hope that someday Justin will pass the cookbook along to his own children, and when he shares the story of the cookbook they will feel the love of their crazy grandmother who danced around the kitchen with her headphones on as she stirred and kneaded and baked while creating a family story.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

Memorial: Anything Meant to Help People to Remember a Person or Event

Webster's Dictionary defines the noun "memorial" as anything meant to help people to remember a person or event.

We have all attended memorial services for someone who has died, whether that someone is a family member, friend, neighbor, family member of a friend, or even a pet or a jack-o-lantern than has fallen from the porch (or been nudged over the edge by an older brother).  It is a time when we come together and share one another's sorrow and lift one another's spirits with stories and anecdotes about the departed's lifetime with us and pay tribute to the deceased.

Memorial Day is a time that we also come together, but how often do we remember the reason that we Americans set the day aside?  How often do we take even a moment to honor the memory of those who have given so much of themselves for our freedom and liberty that we are so fortunate to enjoy in these United States?  Do we pause for just a minute to salute our flag and cherish what it stands for?  Do we thank a soldier or veteran when we meet one?  Do we give a thought to those men and women who fight for us right this very moment so that we are able to come together in freedom?

This Memorial Day, let us enjoy our freedoms by coming together and doing something to help us to remember those exceptional men and women who have sacrificed so much for us.  Were it not for them, we might not have the opportunity to come together at all.  Let us raise a glass to their honor, say a prayer for their safety, and shout a loud thank you for their selflessness.

Happy Memorial Day!

Thursday, May 19, 2011

One More Month

One more month until the big day arrives, the day my "little boy" takes a wife.  When the date was picked such a long time ago and the wedding Website went live last July, I knew the time would go by quickly but I don't think I honestly knew just how quickly it really would go by.  I set some lofty goals for this wedding, you know, wearing a size 6 dress, having a six-figure savings account set aside for the young couple, not crying and blubbering like a fool on the big day.  Well, the first two didn't happen and you can rest assured that the third one won't either.

I cry at everything.  I cry when I'm happy, when I'm sad, when something is beautiful, when I see newborn babies, when someone shares good news, when someone shares bad news, when I watch Hallmark commercials.  Business as usual for me.  With elements of happiness, beauty, and good news, this wedding should have me bawling for days.  I'm going to have to start meditating or something so I can make it through the wedding day without sobbing the entire time, for if I do I'll look back for years to come at my puffy eyes and red nose in all of those wedding photos and that will make me cry some more.

I've read some tips on how to prevent yourself from crying, such as taking deep breaths or pinching yourself on the arm as a distraction, but I have a feeling if I'm not the one in the wedding photos with the puffy eyes and red nose, I'll be the one hyperventilating with the bruises all over her arms.

Oh, well, as my sister always says, I am a tenacious optimist.  I'm sure I can do it.  I'm going to peruse some self-help books starting tonight.  I'll figure it out.  And if I lose two pounds a day, I'll bet I can have my dress altered to a size 6.  And there's absolutely no reason why I can't win the lottery and stuff a nice chunk of that money into their savings account for them.  I can do it, I know I can.  After all, I've got one more month.

Saturday, May 14, 2011

Rock on, White Lies

I am a middle-aged woman with an addiction problem...I am addicted to Rock Band.  I love to sing, although I am a very poor singer.  I'm great on getting the tempo just right and sing the words the way they're meant to be sung, but the finished product is really quite awful.  But it's fun, and I think that's supposed to be the main objective of the game.

I love the thought of playing Rock Band.  I love rushing to my sister's house just down the street from my own at 10:00 o'clock at night for a "quick hour", which turns into three.  I love to sing my little heart out, squirming around in my chair as if I'm dancing while I sing, and behaving like I'm a teenager.  I love my sister looking at me with her quizzical look asking, "HOW old are you?"  I love our Rock Band 2 and 3 song choices, I love our Beatles edition, and I love our AC/DC live tracks.  I love it all.

But what I really love most about playing is the precious time that it gives me with family and the fact that it is our special little treasure.  That's the real addiction in it.  We (I think Emily is responsible) have dubbed ourselves "The White Lies".  That's as good a rock band name as any.  Justin is awesome on guitar and vocals (I do loan him the microphone from time to time to sing a song or two).  Emily is an excellent drummer (and I let her sing a little too).  Tory can do it all; she is simply amazing on all of the instruments and since she happens to be a professional singer it's pretty wonderful of her that she does not once cringe while I'm sounding like a wounded cat.  Kathy is great on the laptop.  She uses her laptop while we usurp her living room for our nights of merriment, and eventually she caves.  If she happens to know the song, she'll belt it out without a mic and drown out the lead singer of The White Lies, which happens to be me, of course.  And we love it.  And we love that we can get her to take over guitar when Justin takes over the mic.  She says she's not competitive, but just hear her roar when she's had a great performance.  Her initial efforts to ignore us are futile for she suffers from the same addiction as I do.

Our schedule may have to vary a little once the wedding of the year takes place.  Next thing you know, Emily will bring a guy home to meet us, who, if he knows what's good for him, will like Rock Band.  Then, in a few more years, it may change again once we add some little tykes to the mix.  We'll just get some Fisher-Price add-ons.  Change may cause us to adjust a little, but this family thing we've got going on is too good and too strong not to survive.  Some people go to a lot of expense and trouble to find entertainment.  We find it on Friday evenings right there in the living room, just the five of us, and an occasional "guest star" only adds to the memories we get to share.

This kind of fun can't be purchased, and this kind of love can't be diluted by distance.  May we forever rock on, White Lies.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Monday, May 2, 2011

Five More Mondays

Do you go to bed on Sunday nights and think to yourself, "oh, no, Monday morning already tomorrow and I have to get up for work again?"  My sister Kathy who taught school for 37 years used to get to some point in May and start to count how many Mondays she had left before the end of the school year.  It made it easier to deal with the kids getting antsy with the good weather and summer vacation just around the corner, and counted down her own time to relaxation and fun in the swimming pool at last.

My husband is not typically home for dinner on Monday evenings and so I enjoy dinner at Kathy's with her and with my son Justin.  Going to Kathy's is always mostly often a relaxing experience (just kidding, Kath; it's "always") and time spent with Justin is always (no strikethrough needed) entertaining.  Justin has been a character from day one and has more funny things roll off his tongue in two minutes than most of us can even think in two months.  Spending those few hours together is a highlight of my week.

Justin is getting married next month, and tonight I was suddenly struck with a sobering thought:  five more Mondays.  I have only five more Mondays before the wedding and before life will drastically change for us.  Justin will no longer be there for our Monday evening meals.  He will no longer be my little boy (not that he's been that for a very long time) but he'll soon be someone's husband.  That's a massive concept to grasp.  The four-year-old strategically maneuvering just enough of his chicken pot pie into the garbage when our backs were turned to make it "look good" starts to become smaller and smaller in the rear view mirror when I try to wrap my head around his being a responsible husband.  Not that he isn't a responsible adult, because he absolutely is, but it is he who will now be the head of the family and he who will one day (hopefully) be a father having the "almost clean plate sleight of hand" done to himself.

I am very much looking forward to the wedding and to having a new daughter-in-law to love, but it's hard to absorb all that will necessarily change.  Life must change, and change is good, but that doesn't mean it doesn't take a lot of adjustment on the part of a lot of people.  We will all be changed by not having him near us on a daily basis, but I dare say he will miss being near us on a daily basis too.  He won't be here to change the water bottle on the water cooler or take out the garbage or shovel the snow.  He won't be here to be the calm in the storm or the comic relief on a difficult day.  It's a little bit scary for me to think of all this change, but exciting too because I'll have a beautiful daughter figure in my life now, and, if the good Lord blesses us, one day grandchildren too.

So I'll savor my five more Mondays, and then once I've settled in after the wedding, I think I'll change my focus to the thought of a little grandson entering my life who can be a chip off the old block and carry on the shenanigans his father sired in him.  It certainly makes having only five more Mondays a lot more palatable when I consider what kind of pot pie prestidigitation the next generation will conjure up.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Tuesday, April 26, 2011

When did she get to be a beauty; when did he grow to be so tall?

This past weekend my family celebrated two big events that I can't believe have come to pass in such short order:  the 30th birthdays of both my son Justin and my niece Emily.  I'm not sure when or how it happened, but those two little angels that I so loved cuddling and playing with are now incredible adults.

Justin, my one and only, makes me proud every single moment of every single day and I'm not sure exactly what I did to deserve such a wonderful son.  He is my father reincarnated, very smart, very level-headed, amazes me with his common sense and wisdom, and is funny beyond belief.  I didn't realize when I named him Justin, and I must admit that I heard the name Justin on a soap opera and snatched it up immediately, that the name would fit him so perfectly since he turned out to be one of the most just persons I've ever known, another trait in common with my late father, who died before Justin was born.

I couldn't love Emily more if I gave birth to her myself.  She's an exceptional young woman, who is as beautiful on the inside as she is on the outside.  When Emily takes you into her heart, she gives you a piece of her heart that belongs to you forevermore.  She doesn't expect or ask for it back; it yours.  And her heart must be endless because she gives pieces freely and generously and by all accounts she should have run out by now, but her supply seems to be inexhaustible.

Justin's fiancee Tory engineered a great surprise party for the two of them this weekend.  Being born two days apart, they've celebrated together for all of these 30 years, so it was fitting to combine once again.  The surprise, however, was on us since the two of them had no trouble figuring it all out beforehand, but graciously went along with the gag, and a great time was had by all.

Although I am struggling to arrive at an answer as to why they have made it to 30 years of age while time has stood still for me and I am an amazingly young woman to have a 30-year-old child, I've been doing a lot of reminiscing this past week, and I'm starting to think maybe I have gotten a bit older because a lot of time has gone by and a lot of things have changed; changed, yet strangely stayed the same.  I do realize however that my nightly anti-aging routine was merely one tenth of what it is today.

I remember watching the last royal wedding of Princess Diana and Prince Charles while I was up very early in the morning with my unhappy infant and all of the networks carried coverage of the wedding, and now this weekend their own son is being married.  I hope I will not be awakened early by anyone who is unhappy as I would prefer to just see pictures after the fact and if I am awakened before dawn it is I who will be the unhappy one.

I also can remember that the weather pattern happened to be identical 30 years ago this week.  Cold, wet, and miserable going into the hospital, sunny and beautiful with all of the trees and plantings having learned that it's spring when we came home.  What a wonderful treat to come home with a precious new gift and find that not only your life has blossomed but that life all around you has blossomed as well.

I am blessed, I am truly blessed, and I am grateful that God chose me to be the mother of this amazing man and the paternal aunt of this wonderful woman.  Somehow, I did something right.  Somehow, the stars all aligned in just the right pattern at just the right time.  Somehow, my prayers were answered and I became the beneficiary of a beautiful miracle.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

They call it "Puppy Love"

There are many different forms of love, romantic love, a mother's love for her children, the love of friends and family, love for all things chocolate, and the comfortable, ever-present love of man's (and woman's) best friend.  I think they call it puppy love.

Rosie came into our lives an all-too-brief seven years ago.  She brought with her the biggest heart and sweetest personality one pup could ever possess.  This was a golden retriever with a heart of gold.  She spent her life making people happy, from the UPS man, who loved seeing her resting her head on the windowsill looking out at him, to Justin, who, even if he brought his race car home in pieces on a Saturday night, would soon be smiling when she began "attack licking" him all over the face.  It sure made me happy when I'd walk into the house to be greeted like a rock star by my "Puppy Girl", even if the underlying reason for the greeting was the treat she knew I'd give her.  Yes, making us happy was her lot in life.  But no one was happier than Kathy.  Kathy was happy to give Rosie insulin shots twice a day; happy to clean up after her when her poor little diabetic bladder just could not hold any more; happy to spend thousands of dollars to repair the cataracts in Rosie's eyes so she could once again go outside and chase butterflies and watch the rabbits from the window.

Rosie had more health problems than you could shake a stick at, whatever that really means, but you would never know it.  She was just always happy.  She had a real purpose in life, in addition to bringing joy to every person she encountered.  The day she joined my sister's household, the neighbor got Kathy's mail and mistakenly opened it, so he came to her door to apologize.  When he saw the newest addition to the family, he asked if he might bring his wife and daughter Tory to meet little Rosie.  It was a quick decision on their part to adopt Rosie's brother, Passion.  Justin, working at home at the time, found himself to be the newly-assigned dog whisperer to both Rosie and Passion, and passion was exactly what existed in the relationship shared by Justin, Rosie, and Passion as he loved them with all his heart and they adored him and accepted him as their alpha dog and number one love of their life.

It wasn't long before Justin and Tory, having absolutely nothing but two golden retriever pups in common, began to take walks with Rosie and Passion.  The walks got to be longer and longer.  Next thing we knew,  Tory, a singer and dancer, started going to Justin's races...and even into the pits.  Justin was attending Nutcracker performances and voice recitals.  This June, we have a wedding to celebrate.

So our little Rosie came along and created a whole lot of  happiness.  I hope one day my grandchildren can sit with me with their own little pup while I tell them the story of how their Mommy and Daddy met and became a family, all because of puppy love.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Groundhog Day Revisited

Can you believe it's Groundhog Day already?  I hear that Punxsutawney Phil did not see his shadow today, and that means that spring is on its way.  It's a little hard to convince us in the northeast who've just experienced the most snowfall EVER in the month of January and have 15-foot high walls of snow all around us that spring is imminent, but we'll revel in whatever optimism we can get nowadays, even if the uplifting wisdom comes from a furry rodent.

Most people don't think too much about Groundhog Day, but I happen to have a brother who for many years threw an annual Groundhog Day party.  I honestly don't know if he has some kind of connection to groundhogs or if there is some deeper meaning that escaped me, but I really think it was just a good excuse for a party.  He has a "Happy Groundhog Day" hat that he dusts off once a year, and, even though I think he had the day off from work today, I'm sure he wore it around the house.

Remember the movie, "Groundhog Day", in which Bill Murray's character Phil just kept living the same day over and over again?  Day after day Phil would awaken to the alarm's radio playing "I Got You Babe" only to later discover that once again it was Groundhog Day and he'd relive the same day he had experienced the previous day.

How many days does this happen to you?  Do you wake up day after day to new adventures, new opportunities, new experiences, or do you stop at the same coffee shop, go to the same job, work for the same employer and expect a different result?

I think we've all been guilty of revisiting Groundhog Day repeatedly.  It gets comfortable to have routine.  But if you're not all that happy doing the same thing over and over and you're still struggling to pay the bills and get ahead, isn't it time to break out of the habit and try something different for a change?

What if I could show you a way to save money on every single thing you buy?  What if I could show you a better way to take responsibility for your financial security?  What if I could show you a way to ensure a healthy residual income so that you might work hard for a couple of years, but then you could spend your Groundhog Days on the beach while you watched your ship sailing in with your cash?  You'd like that, wouldn't you?  Of course you would!  It sure would beat letting a critter bring your only glimmer of optimism, wouldn't it?

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Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Raise your hand if you're tired of shoveling snow!

So how about it, northeast?  Are you as tired as I am of shoveling snow?  I've lived in Connecticut all my life and I never remember a winter like this one.  I remember a lot of snow as a little girl, but it didn't hang around like this.  We didn't have humongous mounds of snow that you couldn't see around to pull out of a side street.  Of course, I didn't drive when I was a little girl, so you never know.  Maybe you just don't pay attention when you're riding in the back seat.  But I remember our home movies.  My father would spend hours and hours making us an ice rink in the back yard when it snowed.  My mother would film him, and the painstaking way he worked (when you could see around her fingernail which she always managed to have in front of the lens) was a true labor of love.  The next film sequence a few days later would be of grass showing through the ice.  Well, it was fun for the few days that it lasted.

Anyway, my sister's doctor always tells her that no one over 30 should be shoveling snow.  He even gave her a written prescription:  NO SHOVELING SNOW.  She never filled the prescription apparently because I've seen her shovel a LOT of snow this winter.  And take my word for it, she's over 30.

I, on the other hand, have had quite enough bending, lifting, and throwing for one season, and it's only the first of February so we could have a LONG way to go, but I found myself a helper.  I call him "Joe", "Snow Joe" that is.  Have you seen these little gadgets?  What a great thing for someone like me.  I've got the $99 model, and it does a terrific job of cleaning the snow for me.  With some of the snow we've had this season, I've had to take the snow down in levels, but it still beats bending, lifting, and throwing.  It's a wonderful tool for every woman to have, but my husband has decided he likes it too, which is okay by me because it's even easier to clear the snow when I don't have to do it myself.  You'd better hurry and order yourself one before they're all sold out.  Probably had a run on them today because here comes more snow [sigh].

I've got to sign off.  It's been tough typing with only my right hand while the left one has been raised in the air.

Do your back a favor.  Check out the Snow Joe:  http://www.home-improvement-superstore.com/snow-joe-llc-322p-7-5a-elec-snow-thrower.html?utm_term=75AElecSnowThrower&utm_content=HomeImprovement&site=google_base&utm_source=GAN&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=bluecherry

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Saturday, January 29, 2011

How do your relationships rate?

Today was the final send off for a very dear 93-year-old man who'd decided it was time to move on from this life to the next.  Volumes could be written about this man, and they would differ greatly from one chapter to the next.  While one chapter would tell of a young man who was completely irreverent, the next would tell of another man who, in later years, attended Catholic Mass every day.

This was a man who loved people, especially those of the female persuasion, but all people nevertheless.  In my husband's very moving eulogy, he referred to him as both a man's man, and a ladies' man.  That sized him up quite nicely.  For him, life was all about relationships.  People were of much greater value than anything material or any job, task, hobby, or activity that appeared on his agenda.  The building could be on fire, but he would still squeeze in a moment to make YOU feel special.  There was literally nothing that he wouldn't do for the people that he loved.  Every woman he ever met thought that it was she who was the most special woman in life.  What a gift to be able to make someone else feel so unique.

The priest delivering the homily noted that when he looked at the various collages placed around at the services he was never photographed alone standing by pretty scenery.  He was with people he loved; always with people he loved.  He was enjoying life and living it to the fullest.  He noted that he took the time every single day to nurture his relationships.  How many of us can say that we do that?

Life is all about relationships.  I hope that I learned something today, and I hope that although I don't want to mimic the irreverent parts of his life, I DO want to mimic the part about building and nurturing relationships.  In the end, that is all that matters in life.

Connect with me, and let's begin building relationships together.

http://www.priscillagaramella.com/

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Monday, January 24, 2011

Are you weighing the evidence to properly decide your fate?

Today I had the experience of spending the day at a federal courthouse while being questioned to see if I might be fit to carry the burden of deciding someone's fate.  Eight jurors were chosen, and I was among the final 16 to be considered.

Although I was not anxious to give up two weeks of my life to sit in a courtroom, nor was I anxious to drive the 56 miles round trip each day, I left wondering what it was that made the attorneys representing both sides feel that I should not be one of the eight chosen to decide this person's outcome.  I know I would have done my absolute best.  I wondered if the eight chosen will pay as much attention as I would have, if they will take good and thorough notes, if they will be fair and honest in their reasoning, and if they will have the courage to stand their ground against the others if they feel strongly the other way.

Having someone's future in your hands is an enormous responsibility.  Having our OWN future in our own hands is an enormous responsibility.  How many of us just glide through life without taking the time to create a road map.  If we just go through life on cruise control without taking the time and effort to plan our lives and create that map, how will we know where we are and how will we know when we've gotten there?

Have you taken the time today, this week, this month, this year to write down your own goals, plans, and wish lists?  Do you know where you're heading?  Do you know what you'll need to have or to do in order to reach your destination?  Are you willing to work on your own behalf?

When you take a look at who I am, what I do, and the company I represent, I want you to WEIGH all of the information.  Don't take anything in life on face value.  Do your homework, make your plans, dream your dreams, but know all of the facts and circumstances before you embark on your journey.

Get in touch with me to help you to assess all of the information.  I KNOW that I will be fair and honest in assessing your situation, and I KNOW that I will weigh all of the evidence and help you to decide your fate in the appropriate manner for you.

http://www.priscillagaramella.com/

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Thursday, January 20, 2011

What is the new status symbol in 2011?

An e-mail from a dear lady I know just reminded me of something...do you know what the new status symbol is for 2011?  A Bentley?  A 7,000 square foot home at the shore?  Perfect white teeth?  Nope, nope, nope.  It's being DEBT FREE!

How does one achieve such a lofty goal in this day and age when the cost of everything keeps going up and up and people keep losing jobs?  It won't be at the mercy of an employer who controls your purse strings, that's for sure.  You need to take responsibility for your own level of income, which means you need to become self employed.  But do you start a new business now?  What type of business will thrive in this economy?  What about the capital investment?  What about the space needed for your new venture?  What special talents do you need?  How many people will you have to hire, and are you now ready to be responsible for someone else's livelihood in addition to your own?  A massive undertaking to say the least and one that instills fear in the best of us.

There are solutions out there, but don't think a get-rich-quick scheme is going to work because if it seems too good to be true, chances are it is and you should run, don't walk, away.  Network marketing, however, is a very good way to amass a nice residual income in the shortest period of time, but you need to weigh the opportunity carefully before jumping in with both feet.  Do you want to try to sell someone a healthy drink or a weight loss potion when people are having trouble paying their monthly bills to keep their families fed and a roof over their heads?  Absolutely not.

I am happy to say that I've got the solution for you.  Being paid to shop online.  You still may balk at this concept, but think about it.  We all have to shop, whether we like it or not, because there are everyday items that we simply must have:  toilet paper, deodorant, toothpaste, aspirin, tires for our cars, and the list of necessities goes on and on.  So....why wouldn't you want to have a home-based business in which you could buy what you need from the comfort of your own home, save money on it, get paid cash back, and then share the experience with others and earn money from their efforts?  Does this sound like a no-brainer to you as it does to me?  If you're willing to just spend some time training yourself to become a really savvy shopper so you can save money on everything you buy and then sharing the concept with others, you can be well on your way to a six-figure income this year.  It's January.  You have plenty of time to get this growing for yourself.  It's a practical, simple solution THAT WORKS IF YOU WORK at it.  I won't make you baseless promises of money for nothing.  You have to expend some effort.  But you won't expend nearly the effort you do working a 40-hour work week with someone else making a profit off your back.  YOU will make the profit and you can gain that new status symbol of being debt free in no time at all.  That promise I can make.  You agree to put the time and effort in, and I will help you with your goals.  We can do it together.

I have an invitation for you.  It won't cost you a penny; it'll just cost you some time.  (Well, it'll cost you at least a penny if you're still using dial-up and paying by the minute.)  This Saturday, January 22nd, my business is offering a free online company overview from 12:00 noon until 12:45 p.m. EST.  Just click my link below at that time, and the presentation will take place right there on my home page.  It will cost you NOTHING.  You do not have to put in a name, an e-mail address, a phone number, NOTHING.   It is completely anonymous.  If you like what you see, you will be invited to sign up at that time, and then you can spend the next three hours being fully trained right there at your computer in your own comfy, fuzzy slippers.  Even if you don't sign up, you can still be trained for free and then sign up after if you're a skeptic.  Take the time for you and your loved ones.  There is no obligation whatsoever.  Adopt the Nike attitude, and JUST DO IT!!

http://www.priscillagaramella.com/

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Wednesday, January 19, 2011

Want to thrive financially in a challenging economy?

I'm sure I'm like you, becoming more and more frustrated coping with rising food and gas prices, and becoming disenheartened by the news of friends and family losing their jobs.  Scary times we're living in, folks!  But what if I could show you a way in which you could save money on everything you buy, earn cash back, AND make some extra money all at the same time?  Would an extra $100 a month help out?  An extra $l,000?  An extra $10,000?  Why don't you let me help you out with that?

I'm just an average American mom who hates to shop, but loves to buy.  When I learned of an opportunity which would pay me cash back on everything I buy online AND that had a phenomenal built-in search engine that would find me the lowest price on every single thing I buy, I was sold.  It's so convenient and saves me so much money, that I've switched all of my shopping to the Internet.  I buy anything and everything you can think of through my shopping site, from paper towels to tires for my car, I can find the best savings, and then I get paid cash back on top of that!  In two years' time, I've been paid over $2,500 just in cash back alone, and that does not count my thousands of dollars in savings nor does it count the earnings in residual income.  And now that I'm with Kaching Kaching, I'm getting stock options too!  Man, I sure love this business!  How fun is it to just buy what I need, tell others because I'm so excited by earning money just by shopping, and then getting paid for it to boot?  Ha!  Life is good!

Seriously, if you think you need a way out of this economy, I can help you.  Just shop and refer.  That's it.  So simple.  So lucrative.

Your own home-based business can be started today.  Go check out my site, http://www.priscillagaramella.com/ and watch the "company tour" in the upper left.  Give me a yell for any help you need and I'm at your disposal.  I'm in Connecticut, but I can help you no matter where in the U.S. you are.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011