Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Monday, November 7, 2011

The Toothbrushes

Hundreds of thousands of us living in Connecticut this past week can commiserate with one another about how difficult several days on end without electricity can be.  Sleeping in a home with inside temperatures below 50 degrees and lugging water for flushing is not for the faint of heart!

I
experienced just such a week myself. Although we did not initially lose power as a result of "Storm Alfred" which brought an extremely heavy October snow, we lost our power after the fact, presumably as a result of a transformer blowing out perhaps as someone else celebrated the return of electricity; their gain, my loss. Those elusive little currents just avoided my street like the plague for the next five days.



Night five had me at my breaking point for sleeping in a frigid bedroom in sweat shirts and pants, heavy socks, and ten pounds of blankets, and I simply refused to put up with the uncivilized conditions for a fifth night.  And let's not even think about the smoke detectors that one by one starting chirping when the batteries decided that they too had had enough.  Ah, but at 7:30 p.m. Sunday as I was out for the evening came the text message from my sister, who lives five doors down the street, that I'd long awaited: our power had come back on.  A massive lottery win wouldn't have made me happier! But on the ride back home, my sister called, and I could tell by her tone that she was about to deflate my soaring mood.  It seems that most of the homes on our street had power restored...but not mine.


At my sister's urging, and it did not take much convincing, believe me, my husband and I decided to spend the night at her home.  She still has a beautiful wing of her home, once my mother's, more recently my son's, where my son Justin and his new wife Tory still spend weekends when they return from their home in another state.


Aside from the warm comfort and satisfaction of light coming on upon throwing a switch, I embraced my temporary surroundings with a new interest I hadn't expected.  I marveled at what for the past several years had been a male-dominated environment as it now blossoms with feminine touches proving that a woman has nested here with her mate. Strewn among the race car photos, racing newspapers, and men's cologne now emerge hair clips, bracelets, and ballerinas. When I glanced at the toothbrush holder and saw the two toothbrushes next to one another and so perfectly entwined together at the bottom, it proved without a doubt that this space now belonged to a couple instead of a single male.  I experienced an unexpected contentment from the toothbrushes as they were for me proof positive of a bond between a husband and a wife.  Such a simple little everyday detail, but evidencing a profound intimacy that exists in their relationship.  My "little boy" is where I have always hoped he would eventually arrive, in a marriage bond with the woman he loves, and she equally loving him back.


To be there for one another in every way, shape, and form, through whatever life tosses their way, electricity or no electricity, to entwine his toothbrush with hers, that is what I pray for this amazing couple every blessed day of their lives.

Monday, May 2, 2011

Five More Mondays

Do you go to bed on Sunday nights and think to yourself, "oh, no, Monday morning already tomorrow and I have to get up for work again?"  My sister Kathy who taught school for 37 years used to get to some point in May and start to count how many Mondays she had left before the end of the school year.  It made it easier to deal with the kids getting antsy with the good weather and summer vacation just around the corner, and counted down her own time to relaxation and fun in the swimming pool at last.

My husband is not typically home for dinner on Monday evenings and so I enjoy dinner at Kathy's with her and with my son Justin.  Going to Kathy's is always mostly often a relaxing experience (just kidding, Kath; it's "always") and time spent with Justin is always (no strikethrough needed) entertaining.  Justin has been a character from day one and has more funny things roll off his tongue in two minutes than most of us can even think in two months.  Spending those few hours together is a highlight of my week.

Justin is getting married next month, and tonight I was suddenly struck with a sobering thought:  five more Mondays.  I have only five more Mondays before the wedding and before life will drastically change for us.  Justin will no longer be there for our Monday evening meals.  He will no longer be my little boy (not that he's been that for a very long time) but he'll soon be someone's husband.  That's a massive concept to grasp.  The four-year-old strategically maneuvering just enough of his chicken pot pie into the garbage when our backs were turned to make it "look good" starts to become smaller and smaller in the rear view mirror when I try to wrap my head around his being a responsible husband.  Not that he isn't a responsible adult, because he absolutely is, but it is he who will now be the head of the family and he who will one day (hopefully) be a father having the "almost clean plate sleight of hand" done to himself.

I am very much looking forward to the wedding and to having a new daughter-in-law to love, but it's hard to absorb all that will necessarily change.  Life must change, and change is good, but that doesn't mean it doesn't take a lot of adjustment on the part of a lot of people.  We will all be changed by not having him near us on a daily basis, but I dare say he will miss being near us on a daily basis too.  He won't be here to change the water bottle on the water cooler or take out the garbage or shovel the snow.  He won't be here to be the calm in the storm or the comic relief on a difficult day.  It's a little bit scary for me to think of all this change, but exciting too because I'll have a beautiful daughter figure in my life now, and, if the good Lord blesses us, one day grandchildren too.

So I'll savor my five more Mondays, and then once I've settled in after the wedding, I think I'll change my focus to the thought of a little grandson entering my life who can be a chip off the old block and carry on the shenanigans his father sired in him.  It certainly makes having only five more Mondays a lot more palatable when I consider what kind of pot pie prestidigitation the next generation will conjure up.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

They call it "Puppy Love"

There are many different forms of love, romantic love, a mother's love for her children, the love of friends and family, love for all things chocolate, and the comfortable, ever-present love of man's (and woman's) best friend.  I think they call it puppy love.

Rosie came into our lives an all-too-brief seven years ago.  She brought with her the biggest heart and sweetest personality one pup could ever possess.  This was a golden retriever with a heart of gold.  She spent her life making people happy, from the UPS man, who loved seeing her resting her head on the windowsill looking out at him, to Justin, who, even if he brought his race car home in pieces on a Saturday night, would soon be smiling when she began "attack licking" him all over the face.  It sure made me happy when I'd walk into the house to be greeted like a rock star by my "Puppy Girl", even if the underlying reason for the greeting was the treat she knew I'd give her.  Yes, making us happy was her lot in life.  But no one was happier than Kathy.  Kathy was happy to give Rosie insulin shots twice a day; happy to clean up after her when her poor little diabetic bladder just could not hold any more; happy to spend thousands of dollars to repair the cataracts in Rosie's eyes so she could once again go outside and chase butterflies and watch the rabbits from the window.

Rosie had more health problems than you could shake a stick at, whatever that really means, but you would never know it.  She was just always happy.  She had a real purpose in life, in addition to bringing joy to every person she encountered.  The day she joined my sister's household, the neighbor got Kathy's mail and mistakenly opened it, so he came to her door to apologize.  When he saw the newest addition to the family, he asked if he might bring his wife and daughter Tory to meet little Rosie.  It was a quick decision on their part to adopt Rosie's brother, Passion.  Justin, working at home at the time, found himself to be the newly-assigned dog whisperer to both Rosie and Passion, and passion was exactly what existed in the relationship shared by Justin, Rosie, and Passion as he loved them with all his heart and they adored him and accepted him as their alpha dog and number one love of their life.

It wasn't long before Justin and Tory, having absolutely nothing but two golden retriever pups in common, began to take walks with Rosie and Passion.  The walks got to be longer and longer.  Next thing we knew,  Tory, a singer and dancer, started going to Justin's races...and even into the pits.  Justin was attending Nutcracker performances and voice recitals.  This June, we have a wedding to celebrate.

So our little Rosie came along and created a whole lot of  happiness.  I hope one day my grandchildren can sit with me with their own little pup while I tell them the story of how their Mommy and Daddy met and became a family, all because of puppy love.

Copyright Priscilla Garamella 2011